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June 22, 2007

Windy Hager and Brenton Wuchae

Windy Hager and an interesting example of how they do things differently over there: the 16 year old Hager has just got married to her 40 year old cross-country coach, Brenton Wuchae.

An interesting way of dealing with an "inappropriate relationship" between a teacher and a pupil, don't you think?

Monday, Brent Wuchae, a 40-year-old cross-country coach and science teacher, married 16-year-old South Brunswick student Windy Hager shortly before, or after, formally resigning from the school district.

A marriage license on record at the Brunswick County Register of Deeds office notes the time of license approval as 12:02 p.m. Superintendent Dr. Katie McGee said Wuchae hand-delivered his resignation to the district’s central office “around noon.”

                    Wuchae had been on paid administrative leave since May 3 following an undisclosed incident on campus.

As Windy Hager is 16, her parents, Dennis and Betty Hager had to give their consent. Not, particularly, willingly it seems:

Since October, Betty and her husband, Dennis, have fought school leaders on what the couple called an unwillingness to take action against Wuchae.

The Hagers claimed then, and have maintained, that Wuchae, a nearby neighbor, had developed an inappropriate friendship with their daughter.

They contend the school system failed them when they asked administrators to intervene and help keep Wuchea away from their teenager.

The Hagers signed a consent form Monday to allow Windy to marry Wuchae. Under North Carolina law, a person under the age of 18 must have parents’ written permission to wed.

Betty said Tuesday that Windy’s intention to marry Wuchae came as a shock, but she and Dennis agreed to sign a consent form because they didn’t know what else to do.

“We have tried everything. We have contacted every agency – the Oak Island police department, the sheriff’s department, the school system. We couldn’t get a temporary restraining order against him. The school board wasn’t going to help or wasn’t going to tell us anything,” Betty said. “This man was not going to stay away from our child and she wasn’t going to stay away from him.”

One interesting side effect of the marriage is that, if there had indeed been anything improper going on (like statutory rape for example), as his now wife Windy Hager cannot be forced to testify against Brenton Wuchae.

Family "friends" seem to think that it was all rather creepy:

Longtime friends of the Hager family Kim and Scott Sutton of Catawba County said Windy's association with Wuchae began shortly after Wuchae moved to South Brunswick High School in 2004 and began coaching the girls cross country team. Wendy was 14 at the time and had just recently moved with her family from Catawba County and attended South Brunswick Middle School.

Kim said that when she and her husband came from Catawba County to visit the Hagers on several occasions they were often disturbed by how Windy and Wuchae behaved around each other.

During visits with the Hagers, Kim said she saw Windy and Wuchae jogging together alone on the weekends and flirting on the beach in a manner that made Kim feel repulsed and skeptical about behavior she described as inappropriate.

"She didn't have a lot of friends and that's what he took advantage of," Kim said of how Wuchae interacted with Windy.


There is a certain amusement to be had from this report from last November:

Windy Hager understands the strength to finish the race comes from within, yet she attributes much of her motivation to South Brunswick cross country coach Brent Wuchae.

“He’s very encouraging. He’s always telling us how proud he is,” the South Brunswick sophomore said. “I’m proud of where I finished but he seems to be even more proud of me. He’s always been encouraging.

That’s what makes him a great coach. He’s always motivated us; he’s always out there helping us.”

And for those interested, here's a photograph of Windy Hager Wuchae. Slightly unfortunate that this is the only one I could find as the photographer really doesn't seem to have done her any favours with that light.

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Still, here's to the happy couple, eh? Many happy returns and all that.

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She looks quite tasty to me.

Posted by: Mark Wadsworth | Jun 22, 2007 12:17:21 PM

I have to disagree with her parents; they did not do everything they could in trying to keep this idiot away from their daughter. They looked to every outside authority to do it for them.

I would have broken his fucking legs. Problem solved.

Yes, I have two daughters. Why do you ask?

Posted by: Chris | Jun 22, 2007 7:52:52 PM

Ok, those parents are TOTAL idiots. They ALLOWED the marriage. Well, let's face, they allowed a child molester to have access to their minor daughter. And now they are blaming everyone else? If my parents allowed me to do everything I wanted when I was 16 I am sure as hell would have been a pregnant drug addict alcoholic by the time I was 18. Being a parent is not easy. All this BS about allowing our kids to "express" themselves and be their "own person" has ruined society (among other things). My house is not a democracy, it's a dictatorship. I AM THE BOSS. And if your kids don't hate you at some point then you aren't doing your job. PEOPLE... START BEING PARENTS INSTEAD OF JUST HAVING KIDS.

And Chris, props to you. My husband would have broken his legs but I would have tortured the bastard or bitch if it was the same situation with my sons.

Posted by: A Mother | Jun 22, 2007 9:25:47 PM

this man is a preditor...no teacher in his right mind who cares for the best interest of a student would do anything so dispicable...his actions are outrageous,selfish and I'll bet anything he's a controlling maniac.

this girl has been brainwashed and had I been her mom I would have taken her in the middle of the night and gone out of the country,if necessary,seeking the help she so desperately needs...as for her daddy he and a few of his close freinds should have had a "hands on" talk with this freak!!

as for her not speaking to her parents until the signed the consent form..that was such manipulation on her part prompted by her "lover"..they should have said NO !!

my prayers go out to this family and to this young girl who has lost her innocence and her future to this "teacher" !!!

signed...a frustrated mother

p.s. he needs to be strung up by his "parts" so he can never have sex again!!

Posted by: tera | Jun 22, 2007 9:34:51 PM

Every child requires limits and boundaries in all aspects of their life, respectfully, until they have fully developed mentally, physically, emotionally and hopefully spiritually. Evidently, due to the Hager's poor parenting skills, among other things I'm sure, this is the result. Chris, you've descibed well what most genuine, loving and responsible parents must feel. And for the Hager's to express the "poor me" attitude behind all this is despicable to me. However, I would like to suggest to the Hager's something they should've done before they signed anything...immediate therapy.

Posted by: Richard | Jun 22, 2007 9:42:52 PM

Teenagers believe the adults in their lives outside of family have their best interest at hands when in reality there are so many sexual predators out here that you do not know who to trust.

If this were my kid there is no way in hell I would have consented to her being with this man. Further, I would not have allowed her to continue to be on the track team knowing something was going on.

Tough love is what this kid needed.

Stop giving in and discipline!


Posted by: Jennifer | Jun 22, 2007 10:29:43 PM

Oh okay. Internet tough guys. Wow. Hahah. If this man was clearly doing anything illegal, charges would've been filed, not to mention the DA probably would've seen this article and initiated an investigation if there was a suspicion. Once again a bunch of fucking idiots trying to extend their e-penis OHH I WOULDVE GOUGED OUT HIS EYEBALLS AND SKULL FUCKED HIM. Consider that, this particular sixteen year old is not your own. Number two, I've known sixteen year olds who do much worse things than GASP get married.

The age of consent in many nations in Western Europe, is lower than Eighteen. Yet they don't seem to have any problems with their society somehow collapsing because sixteen year olds are doing it. If she knows what she wants, and is aware of the consequences then so be it. Shut the fuck up and move on. The only people who really know what's going on are the daughter, the coach and possibly the parents. Accusing this man of being a child rapist, would be borderline libel if it weren't by a bunch of fucking retards on the internet.

Posted by: S.C. | Jun 22, 2007 10:43:20 PM

Two words: Child predator

Two more words: Statutory Rape!

Three words: She's a MINOR!

Four words: Where were the police?

Posted by: Shelley | Jun 22, 2007 11:06:12 PM

jennifer...ever heard the old saying...when you point the finger at someone else there are always three pointing back at you...whose the retard?!

Posted by: tera | Jun 22, 2007 11:36:46 PM

tera: what does that saying have to do w/ anything? All that means is that people are pointing fingers at everyone else. It doesn't discern proof of guilt.

Posted by: bleh | Jun 23, 2007 12:11:41 AM

@ Shelley

Two words: No charges.

Two more words: were filed.

Three words: You are fucktarded.

Four words: So are your posts.

Posted by: S.C. | Jun 23, 2007 1:06:39 AM

Ok im going to go at this from a different perspective. Yeah its kind of shocking such a age difference. But, it does not mean this cannot be a successful relationship. I reach out to the parents to keep a open mind. My grandmother at the age of 19 married my grandfather at the age of 42. She had 4 children with him and was married until he died at 82. She was devastated when he died and chose to never marry again. She was 59 at the time. She could not stand to think of marrying anyone else. My grandfather was the love of her life and yeah he was much older but I think in life there is no exact plan. What happens happens. Keep a open mind.

Posted by: anonymous | Jun 23, 2007 1:10:33 AM

Ok im going to go at this from a different perspective. Yeah its kind of shocking such a age difference. But, it does not mean this cannot be a successful relationship. I reach out to the parents to keep a open mind. My grandmother at the age of 19 married my grandfather at the age of 42. She had 4 children with him and was married until he died at 82. She was devastated when he died and chose to never marry again. She was 59 at the time. She could not stand to think of marrying anyone else. My grandfather was the love of her life and yeah he was much older but I think in life there is no exact plan. What happens happens. Keep a open mind.

Posted by: anonymous | Jun 23, 2007 1:10:55 AM

Ok im going to go at this from a different perspective. Yeah its kind of shocking such a age difference. But, it does not mean this cannot be a successful relationship. I reach out to the parents to keep a open mind. My grandmother at the age of 19 married my grandfather at the age of 42. She had 4 children with him and was married until he died at 82. She was devastated when he died and chose to never marry again. She was 59 at the time. She could not stand to think of marrying anyone else. My grandfather was the love of her life and yeah he was much older but I think in life there is no exact plan. What happens happens. Keep a open mind.

Posted by: anonymous | Jun 23, 2007 1:11:11 AM

your grandmother was 19 not 16...and possibly met ur grandfather under diffrent circumstances.

Posted by: tera | Jun 23, 2007 1:53:37 AM

If they love each other... what's the big deal?? My husband and I were the same exact ages when we met and got together. Fast forward nine years--we're still together, married almost six years and couldn't be anymore in love. I wouldn't trade my "old" husband for a young one if you paid me!! My parents didn't like it at first, but once they saw how happy he made me and how well he treated me, then they moved past the whole "age" thing. My husband is actually older than my father--they are friends now!! I wish these two the best of luck with their lives and marriage!

Posted by: Kristy | Jun 23, 2007 6:39:07 AM

"a bunch of fucking idiots trying to extend their e-penis"-----Bwagagagagagagagag. That is so funny, and so true.

The new conservative-media ethic has been indulging that dark spot in all of us which lusts for judgment, condemnation and justifiable hatred. Just because Foxnews, Nancy Grace and "To catch a predator" were created to let you barbarians play judge, jury and executioner, it doesnt mean its GOOD for you.
At some point you have to start admitting to yourself WHY you don't want other people to experience love, WHY you dont want other people to be happy and WHY you think you know what is good or bad for other people.
In the now antiquated Shakespearean aesthetic, a wedding was a time for celebration and joy. People cried for wonder and happiness. Today, apparently, we do things differently. If the bride is young, we call the police and we call the groom a "pedophile" or "sexual predator". Bwahahaha. How wicked and hypocritical we've become. Cupid for me, but not for thee! Why? Because you're a sexual predator and your prey is a silly little child!
Love is now a quasi-crime. America has become so fucking barbaric. We presume to believe and support values like "freedom" and "democracy". But when people, people who are not us, make a choice which we know will make them happy, we growl with bilious hatred and rage. We strive to criminalize them in our minds because we simply DONT WANT other people to have free choice and happiness. Why? Because we ourselves allow our own repressions to imprison us? Because we, locked in the cage of unhappiness, resent the quality of liberated felicity in others?
Perhaps we believe that the American world is fair because America is.......a great country? Or something like that. And if the world is fair, nobody should be allowed to have more happiness than we have.

Posted by: BannedChatter | Jun 23, 2007 7:12:04 AM

"If this man was clearly doing anything illegal, charges would've been filed..."

Because the law enforcement authorities are incapable of fault in HappyShinyFun Land, where you obviously live, yes....?

Things are a little different in the real world... Congratulations on your adroit use of language though: 'fucktard', wow, such eloquence, who could fail to be swayed to your argument?

*****

Apart from the age difference, there is another aspect to this - he was in a position of authority (coach) to her. I'm very surprised that that wasn't taken into account.

Chris: "They looked to every outside authority to do it for them."

Yes, indeed. This does seem to have been their downfall...

Posted by: JuliaM | Jun 23, 2007 7:24:24 AM

predator, I think not. where are all you uptight vicious ppl coming from. so there marriage may not work. get over it. it may be very good. he has not harmed her. she seems to love him and he seems to reciprocate. get over it. what prudes we have in a "so-called" free society. shame on you for wishing the worst ,,,,instead of the best,,,,,her parents sound so helpless and anal.

Posted by: brad | Jun 23, 2007 8:05:19 AM

predator, I think not. where are all you uptight vicious ppl coming from. so their marriage may not work. get over it. it may be very good. he has not harmed her. she seems to love him and he seems to reciprocate. get over it. what prudes we have in a "so-called" free society. shame on you for wishing the worst ,,,,instead of the best,,,,,her parents sound so helpless and anal. you have to be parents before they are 16 and not "push" them to be want you want , but rather what they want. love is unconditional.

Posted by: brad | Jun 23, 2007 8:15:40 AM

"this man is a preditor...no teacher in his right mind who cares for the best interest of a student would do anything so dispicable...his actions are outrageous,selfish and I'll bet anything he's a controlling maniac."

I bow in admiration to you. Your psychological experience must be unparalleled because you diagnosed all that from a single media report. Normally professionals take hours with the subject to reach such a conclusion.

Perhaps I'm wrong. Perhaps you're merely an illiterate ditsy moron who is exhibiting a classic case of Freudian projection whereby you have latent paedophilic urges which subconsciously disgust you and your psyche copes by creating and focusing your hatred externally.

Posted by: Kay Tie | Jun 23, 2007 10:42:38 AM

Now I understand why my son was almost twenty before he had a steady job, with all the mamas on here talking about a 16 year old being a mere child.

I laughed when at 18 my boy asked "did you have a job at my age?" Yes I did, I responded, I was in vietnam as an 18 year old marine,but I'd also been working since I was 14 and turning half my pay back in to my parents to help with expenses (there were ten kids in my family we all helped out)

Maybe she should have waited till she was 18 but then that decision has been made.

Now we can all villify her husband and look for the marriage to fail or we can wish them the best and hope they have many happy years together.


My wishes for them:
Good luck to you both and God bless, Windy you might be 16 but you're an adult now, don't forget with rights come responsibility, make everyone proud to know you.

Posted by: Jack | Jun 23, 2007 11:12:53 AM

People get off of it. I have never seen an age limit on two people falling in love. True love is a rare and cherished thing. He wouldn't have married her if he wasn't truly in love with her. A predator? I think not. If he was he would have ran for cover a long time ago. I wish these two the best of luck in life and many, many happy years together. I think it is great you let your love for each other stand in the face of others and not hide what God has put together. It is refreshing to see in the crazy and absurd world we live in today. Congratulations to both of you!

Posted by: Ed | Jun 23, 2007 12:36:35 PM

I was not vilifying the husband, I was vilifying the parents for failing their first responsibility, which is protecting their child. This relationship apparently began when she was 14. A relationship between a minor and an authority figure is always problematic, especially when one of the parties is a child, and yes, a 16-year old is a child. They have not developed the experience or the capacity to project probable outcomes of actions.

To those who see no problem with this whole mess, I'm 46, and I expect you to make your teenage daughters available to me. I will assume a position of responsibility and authority over them, and then I will fuck them.

Posted by: Chris | Jun 23, 2007 12:41:36 PM

Typical, there is more whining here than with the parents. If you have ten people you will have ten different views on the matter. She is married, that is done. she is 16, she will grow up (she is not an adult). What happens now is on her. Agreed that the tough love would have been appropiate. So what she wouldn't have spoken to them, life goes on. Finally he was a teacher who overstepped his role. Sure you can find a success in every type of situation (don't go there). But, in this day and age a parent should feel that they can send there kids to school and have some reassurance that they are protected form this. If she trully knew what she wanted then there would have been no problems if they waited until she was truly an adult (18)

Posted by: Jack | Jun 23, 2007 1:04:11 PM